How to Spend Quality Time with your Boyfriend or Girlfriend 如何与你的男朋友或女朋友品质时间

There just never seems to be enough time and when there is time you both are exhausted from work or have other obligations and there never seems to be the time to spend real quality time together. The key here is to understand the word “quality”; it generally supersedes quantity of time by a large margin.

Whether you and your mate live together or live separately makes no difference; you still need to find the time to have fun together and enjoy each other without feeling as though you are in a rush and need to be doing something else. Here are some things that might help.

• Make an actual date
o Set a day and make your plans and just go out and have fun; or stay in and have fun. Turn off your phones and let the rest of the world do its thing while you do yours.

• Play hooky
o Use a sick day or a vacation day and spend the entire day together. I don’t suggest you do this often, but once in a while it’s always good to sometimes be bad. You earned your vacation and sick days; why not use them?

• Prioritize
o Relationships are a lot of work but if you are committed to this relationship you need to make it a priority in your life. That means sometimes you might have to skip that game of golf with your buddies or skip that shopping trip you planned. It’s important to not assume your mate always understands when you make these other commitments; sometimes making a bit of a sacrifice from doing those other things so you can spend time with your mate can make all the difference in the world.


Your Life and Their Life
A big mistake couples make when they get into a committed relationship is that they forget that they are still two separate individuals. You both have your own set of friends, things you enjoy doing, and obligations to meet. Often one person in the relationship will feel neglected because they don’t understand this concept; it’s a very important concept to understand if you want the relationship to work. You can’t be joined at the hip every minute of the day; you have to find that common ground and begin there. This doesn’t mean, however, that just because you both have separate lives means you can put your mate off with an excuse that you have to tend to one thing or another that might not be an emergency. You have to find the harmony in the relationship as a couple and as individuals. You can still spend that quality time together while enjoying your individuality.

• Take your mate with you
o If you have plans to play golf, for instance, take your girlfriend with you to ride along and share that time with you. This helps her to be introduced to your friends in a casual setting and will make her feel special for asking her to join you.
o If you have planned a lunch date with some of the girls you work with, invite your boyfriend to come along so he can meet your friends. He may feel a bit out of place among the girls, but this will show him you want to include him in the time you spend with your friends.

• Plan a small party
o Invite a few friends from each of your lives and possibly even some family members; this is a good example of sharing time together and incorporating your individual friends and family into each other’s lives. Keep the party small by just inviting those friends and family members that you are closest to. Having too many people may be too over-whelming for both of you.
Quality time doesn’t necessarily mean you have to spend time alone; it means spending time doing the things together that you can enjoy doing together. Bringing each other’s individuality into the relationship and sharing your common likes is a very good way to spend quality time together.


Quality Time and Intimacy
This is a subject you really can’t not talk about; it needs to be addressed as intimacy in relationships is important; not mandatory, but important. When couples lead very busy lives with work and other obligations, intimacy tends to get put on the back burner. Mind you, I’m talking about couples whom have been in their committed relationships past the “new and exciting” part of new relationships when every chance they got they found the time and energy for intimacy. As relationships grow the need or that strong desire for intimacy tends to lessen and couples spend less time being intimate due to exhaustion from work or other obligations. However, I do feel it is important that when you do get the chance to have an intimate evening together that you take full advantage of it and make it special. Need some ideas? Here are a few I have found very useful.

• Share a romantic bath
o Romance isn’t just about the sexual act; it’s all the things leading up to that moment. Sharing a bath together will set the tone for a very loving and intimate evening together. Be sure to turn off your phones and if you must, put a “do not disturb” sign on your front door.

• Massage
o Using essential oils such as lavender, which tends to be relaxing, give each other sensual and gentle massages. This will relax you both and add to the intimacy even more.

• Making love
o Take your time and make the act of sexual intimacy memorable and special. Each partner should be concerned about pleasing the other; when this happens the intimacy is almost a spiritual event; when you are so in tune with your partner you will both feel as though the world had stopped revolving just for you.

Just because we live very busy and hectic lives, it doesn’t mean you can’t find the time to spend quality time with your mate; you just have to make time, make plans, prioritize your obligations, and enjoy each other.


这仅仅似乎永远不会有足够的时间，当你有时间都是声嘶力竭地工作或有其他义务，而且似乎永远是时间花在真正高质量的时间在一起。这里的关键是要了解单词“质量”，它取代了通常有较大的时间量。

无论你和你的伴侣共同生活或分开居住没有什么不同，你还需要时间来找到共同的乐趣和享受，而不感到好像你是在匆忙和相互需要在做其他的事。这里有一些事情可能的帮助。

•让实际日期
Ø设置一天，让你的计划，只是出去的乐趣;或逗留和乐趣。关掉你的电话，让世界其他国家做它的事，而你做你的。

•逃学
o使用生病或休假一天一天整天在一起。我不建议你这样频繁，但偶尔它总是好的，有时是坏的。您获得了你的假期和病假天，为什么不利用呢？

•优先级
Ø关系是很多工作，但如果你致力于这种关系你需要使它成为你生活中的优先事项。这意味着有时你可能要跳过这与您的好友高尔夫运动或跳过你的购物之旅的计划。重要的是要不要以为你的伴侣总是当你了解这些其他承诺;有时，从做的其他事情，这样你可以花时间与你的伴侣都可以在世界上的差别的牺牲一点。




你的生命和生活
一个大错误时作出的夫妇，他们的关系将得到一个坚定的是，他们忘记了，现在他们两个单独的个体。你都有自己的朋友一套，你喜欢做的事情，和义务，以满足。通常一个人的关系会感到被忽视，因为他们不理解这个概念，它是一个非常重要的概念，如果你想了解的工作关系。你不能密不可分了每分每秒，你必须找到共同立场，并开始出现。这并不意味着，但是，仅仅因为你都具有独立的生命意味着你可以忍受你的伴侣的借口关闭，你必须往往一件事或其他可能不紧急。你必须找到在与一对夫妇和个人的关系和谐。您仍然可以花时间在一起，质量在享受你的个性。

•随身携带伴侣
o如果您有计划打高尔夫球，例如，带着你的女朋友来凑凑热闹，分享与您的时间。这有助于她将提交给您的朋友在轻松随意的设定，并要求她加入你让她感觉非常特别。
o如果您已计划与你的女孩的一些工作午餐约会，邀请你的男朋友一起去，以便他能满足您的朋友。他可能会感到一点的地方之间的女孩，但是他这将显示你要包括在你的时间和你的朋友花了。

•计划一小党
Ø邀请几个朋友从你的每一个生命，甚至可能是一些家庭成员，这是一种分享的时间在一起，纳入彼此的生活您个人的朋友和家人很好的例子。保持仅邀请的朋友和家人，你是最接近党小。太多的人可能是过于了空前你们两位。
质量时间并不一定意味着你必须有时间独处，这意味着花时间一起做的事情，你可以享受做在一起。将关系到彼此的个性，共同分享您的喜欢是一个很好的方式度过质量在一起的时间。




时间和质量亲密
这是一个问题你真的不能不谈，它需要在亲密关系的处理是重要的，不是强制性的，但意义重大。当夫妇带领的工作和其他义务非常繁忙的生活，亲密关系则往往就淘汰出局。请注意，我对他们都有自己承诺的关系已经过去“新的，激动人心的”新关系的一部分夫妇谈话时，每一个机会，他们得到了他们发现的时间和亲密的能源。由于关系发展的需要或对亲密关系的强烈愿望趋于减少，夫妇花费更少的时间是从亲密因工作或其他义务用尽。不过，我觉得重要的是，当你得到机会有一个亲密的晚上在一起，你要充分利用它，使它特别。需要一些想法？以下是我发现一些非常有用的。

•共享浪漫浴
Ø浪漫不仅是对性行为;它的所有的东西导致这一时刻。共享连同洗澡水一会为一个非常爱和亲密的晚上，语气在一起。一定要关掉手机，如果你必须提出一个“请勿打扰”，在您的前门的迹象。

•按摩
O使用，如薰衣草，这往往精油有所放松，给对方感性和温柔的按摩。这将放松你们和添加到更加亲密。

•使爱
Ø将您的时间，使性关系的行为和特别难忘。每个合作伙伴应该关注其他讨好，当发生这种情况的亲密关系几乎是一种精神的事件，当你是如此的与您的伙伴，您都将感受到调整好像世界上已停止旋转，您的。

正因为我们的生活非常繁忙紧张的生活，但这并不意味着你不能有太多的时间陪伴你的伴侣的质量时，你只需要做出的时间，计划，优先安排你的义务，并享受对方。